One of the reason Neanderthal became extinct is they didn’t share – food, shelter, protection, child care and sexual pleasure intimately in a binary relationship. Sex and food preparation etc., was done without partner responsibility. That lacking emotionally intelligent connection, makes life empty and beyond a full stomach, leaves much room for personal extinction!
Most evolved people are emotionally intelligent and have self-awareness that allows us to know what we are feeling and how those feelings help or hurt what we are trying to accomplish. We need to rely on our self or someone on our team to have clarity of values which allows us to be more decisive when setting a course of action.
Challenging your prejudices, discovering commonalities and tuning into personal emotions takes practice. When you do so, you become more sensitive and less likely to judge or bully. You also recover quickly from upsets because you are focused on vision.
A tangible structure for our emotions helps us evolve and respect differences, distances and desires. Every day is an opportunity to practice love. One of the biggest keys is to acknowledge weaknesses. Be conscious of situations and don’t give into disruptive emotions and impulses during emotional crisis.
Kevin j Palmer, writer rebel producer poet
Here are some related ideas from a Harvard researcher and author:
Empathy: “You pay full attention to the other person and take time to understand what they are saying and how they are feeling. You always try to put yourself in other people’s shoes in a meaningful way.”
Organizational awareness: “You can easily read the emotional currents and dynamics within a group or organization. You can sometimes even predict how someone on your team or leaders of a company you do business with might react to certain situations, allowing you to approach situations strategically.”
Developing the skills: “First and foremost, social awareness requires good listening skills. Do not talk over someone else or try to hijack the agenda. Ask questions and invite others to do the same.”
Relationship management: “Relationship management is an interpersonal skill set that allows one to act in ways that motivate, inspire and harmonize with others, while also maintaining important relationships.”
Influence: “You’re a natural leader who can gather support from others with relative ease, creating a group that is engaged, mobilized and ready to execute the tasks at hand.
Coach and mentor: You foster the long-term learning by giving feedback and support. You put your points into persuasive and clear ways so that people are motivated as well as clear about expectations.”
Conflict management: “You’re comfortable dealing with disagreements between multiple sides and can bring simmering disputes into the open and find win-win solutions.
Teamwork: “You interact well as a group member and can work with others. You participate actively, share responsibility and rewards, and contribute to the capability of your team as a whole.”
Inspirational leadership: “You inspire and guide others towards the overall vision. You always get the job done and bring out your team’s best qualities along the way.”